3. My Manager is Trying to Erase Me From the Party I Helped Create—and He’s Using Your Tips to Do It
This is Part 3 of a 7-part account of what happened to me — and to others who were directly affected.
It’s based on what we experienced, what we witnessed, and what we remember. When I describe what someone else did, I’m doing so honestly and carefully. I have documentation and support from others for the key parts. I’m not trying to harm anyone — I’m telling the truth about the harm we lived through.
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I’ve only communicated with Randy twice. The first time was a phone call on March 1. He said he was leaning toward saying no to me coming back but needed space for his mental health to decide. He promised to follow up within a week to give a final answer. I gave him space, waited, and updated Lex by email. A week passed. I reached out. That follow-up call never happened. Eventually, I saw on Facebook that it was Randy’s birthday and he was in Reno.
Not long after, my name and photos were removed from the Filth Instagram account. I’ve already talked about that. I kept emailing the full team trying to understand what was going on. I didn’t hear anything back for eight weeks
The second time I heard from Randy was in an email, replying directly to one of those messages I sent to the whole staff. In it, he told me he was filing a trademark opposition against my application for “Filth.”
The filing fee alone is $700, not including legal costs. Apparently, blocking me on Facebook and deleting any trace of me from social media wasn’t enough.
If you’ve ever tipped Randy or supported one of his events, this is what your money is funding.
I didn’t file the trademark to control anything. I did it because I felt unsafe. Right after my partner’s memorial, Randy threatened to remove me from the Filth project. He said he only saw one promotion for the event and used that to question whether I had done anything, or if I should be involved anymore. That’s when I realized I needed some kind of protection.
If people at Fitness SF SOMA referred to Filth as “Alberto’s party,” that wasn’t something I ever claimed or encouraged. People saw what they saw. That doesn’t justify being erased from something I helped build.
This is based on my experience, and on what others who were directly affected went through. Everything here reflects how we saw things happen. When I talk about what someone else did, I’m being honest and careful, sharing what I witnessed or was told. I have documentation and support from others for the key parts of this. I’m not trying to cause harm — I’m telling the truth about harm that happened to me, and to others.
Supporting documents are available upon request.
